Comfort zones

In order to move forward on our path, we often need to take steps out of our comfort zone. We have to be vulnerable with our partner or friends, we have to be assertive where we haven’t been in the past, or we have to say yes to experiences we normally would avoid. This can be hard and scary. And the result can be exhilarating and transformative.

How do we get through the hard and scary part to get to the good stuff? Self-care, Self-care, Self care. And lots of positive optimistic self-talk. That can sound like “It could go poorly and it could also go really well.” Also “Does this need to happen for me to be authentic and true to myself?” Many people project into the future when considering steps out of their comfort zones. They think they can predict the future and make a decision based on how they know it’s going to go. And sometimes they are right. And that’s information. If you get vulnerable with your partner and they shut you down, it hurts. And it’s also information. Do you want to be with someone who shuts you down when you’re talking about your feelings? Or they don’t shut you down and your relationship becomes stronger and deeper. Which is another step out of the comfort zone for many!

I took a huge step out of my comfort zone two weeks ago and said yes to a radio interview. Fastest and longest 8 minutes of my professional life. Longest because I fretted about it quite a bit ahead of time. Then, I got mindful and kind and curious with myself. I gave myself optimistic pep talks. It went fast because on the call I told myself to just be me and time whizzed by. They reported back to me that it went well and offered me a 3 week 30 minute series. Of course I said yes! Although a part of me was screaming “NO!!” It’s going to be an interesting ride with no doubt some bumps and some exhilarating hills. I’m looking forward to it. If you would like to check it out here’s two links: and

I’ll be on 5/5, 5/12, and 5/19 at 10am. Click on the link at that time and join me on my ride outside my comfort zone.

If you’re thinking a step outside your comfort zone is in your future, remember self-care, positive self-talk and staying present. Deal with what happens as it happens. Don’t pessimistically ruminate about what might happen. Be prepared. If you want to step outside your comfort zone and don’t feel able to do it on your own, give me a call and let’s set up an appointment. I’ll join you on your path.

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